Do manners matter in today’s world? You bet! Especially in our classroom and school. I borrowed the following from several sources. One, from a book called “The Essential 55” by Ron Clark and from my own life experiences and teaching experiences. PLEASE read these with your child. We will, of course, be learning these in the classroom, but learning at home is the best kind of learning! It’s also fun to try these as adults. Even we need reminders! Thank you!
1. When responding to an adult (or a telemarketer??)say “Yes ma’am” or “No sir.” This automatically shows respect, and calms the other person. Of course this comes more natural to those raised in the “south.” It is a good life skill for us to learn in the “north” too!
2. Make eye contact. When someone is speaking keep your eyes on him or her at all times. If someone makes a comment, turn and face that person. This is particularly important in the classroom when children are sharing or reading to the class. Fiddling with pencils, etc. is not acceptable.
3. If someone in the class wins a game or does something well, we congratulate them. We will learn how to clap at least 5 seconds in length and loud, to show our appreciation. This is important in school assemblies also.
4. During discussions, respect other students’ comments, opinions and ideas. Do not put down their ideas; do put ups, like “that’s a good point Sally made…”
5. If you win or do well at something, do not brag. If you lose, do not blow up. Instead, say something like “I really enjoyed the competition, and I look forward to playing you again,” or “Good game,” or don’t say anything at all. To show anger or sarcasm, such as “I wasn’t playing hard anyway. You really aren’t that good,” shows weakness. This is very important at recess too. Nobody likes a bragger or poor sport.
6. If you are asked a question in a conversation, you should ask a question in return. Like this: “Did you have a nice weekend?” Reply: “Yes, thank you, we went boating on the river, how was your weekend?” It is only polite to show others that you are interested in them too.
7. If you sneeze or burp or cough, it is appropriate to turn your head, cover your mouth in your sleeve, and afterward say, “excuse me.”
8. Do not smack your lips, roll your eyes, or show disrespect with gestures, to anyone. This could result in discipline you would rather avoid! This goes for the playground too.
9. Always say please and thank you when you are given something either by a teacher or someone else. There is no excuse for not showing appreciation.
10. When you are given something from someone, never insult that person by making negative comments about the gift or insinuating it wasn’t appreciated. This goes for brothers and sisters at home too!
11. Surprise others by performing random acts of kindness. Go out of your way to do something surprisingly kind and generous for someone at least once a week. (this is nice to do as a family surprise too! )
12. Occasionally we may grade papers as a group. Always use one of our class correcting pens. Always be neat, pay attention, so it is corrected right. Miss Lyle will check it when we are finished.
13. When we read together in class, you must follow along. If you are called on to read, you must know where we are immediately. It’s really a bummer when we have to wait for someone who was daydreaming! I’ll help you with ideas on how to best follow along.
14. Answer all written questions with a complete sentence. Use part of the question to write (or speak) your answer. Like this: Who is the Mayor of Davenport? The Mayor of Davenport is Karen Carruth.
15. Homework must be turned in on time (unless you were absent). If not, you will receive a “pink slip” which must be signed by your parents. After 3 pink slips you will have a detention. There is to be no moaning or complaining about homework.
16. Sometimes you will receive rewards for your work and efforts. However, it is not polite to ask for a prize.
17. When we are moving from one subject to another, we do it swiftly. When we line up in the classroom to go somewhere we do it cooperatively and quietly.
18. Our pencils, papers, and homework must ready to go before the first bell. Always have 3 sharpened pencils ready to go.
19. You must make every effort to be as organized as possible. Keep your table and storage area clean except for a book to read at all times. Your table partner will appreciate it!
20. If there is a substitute teacher in the room you must follow all our rules and show respect for them too. If you are in trouble with the substitute teacher you will have a detention when Miss Lyle returns.
21. We will follow certain classroom protocols. We will be organized, efficient, and on task. In order to do so, we will follow these expectations:
A. In our class we get out of our seats with permission. Exception: If you are sick leave immediately.
B. In our class we:
1. Raise our hands.
2. Leave when everyone is lined up quietly
3. Sharpen our pencils during the breaks and before school.
4. Don’t do anything that will cause a problem for ourselves or someone else.
5. Keep a water bottle in your locker.
6. We clean up after ourselves.
22. Greet other adults in the school. It is polite to notice others and say hello. Use their name. Say, “Hello, Mrs. …, how are you today?” Or “that’s a pretty dress you are wearing.”
23. When using the restroom: Flush, wash your hands, don’t linger at the sink,
Throw away your paper towels. IN CLASS: throw away paper towels, clean up supplies after we use them, put things back where you found them.
24. We will have visitors to our classroom. Greet them politely. Remain calm and quiet when they arrive. Shake hands with the visitor if it is appropriate, when they leave tell them thank you, shake their hand, and invite them back.
25. Do not save seats in the lunchroom with your coats, or for someone else. We are a family and we must treat each other with respect and kindness.
26. If someone in class, on the playground or somewhere else is being disciplined, don’t stand and stare-that’s not polite-just walk away. If you are being disciplined and someone is bothering you, tell the teacher so s/he can take care of it.
27. If you have questions about homework or something else, you may call me at home. Let me know when to call you back if I’m not there. If I am unable to return your call, just do your best and we’ll discuss it the next day.
28. Here are the manners for the lunchroom: Talk very quietly so the cooks can hear the children. Keep your hands to yourself. If the line is long, be patient. Don’t take food off of other people’s trays. Walk, never run. Never take cuts. When you first sit down, ALWAYS, put your napkin in your lap. Don’t lick your fingers, use your napkin. Chew with your mouth closed. Use your spoon and fork for eating. (unless it’s pizza or something like that). When you are finished clean up everything around your area, check the floor too. Push in your chair, scrape your tray, and walk quietly to recess. Compliment the cooks; never complain about the food served. (this is good to do at home too!) You may always bring your own lunch.
29. Clean up your own litter or mess no matter where you are in the school. Have "eyes that see what need to be done" when it comes to helping others too.
30. Riding on the bus: Face forward always. Talk quietly. Hands and feet to self. Thank the driver as you leave the bus.
31. Field trips: Be polite always. No talking as we enter a building, or begin a field trip. Look at the speaker always. Keep your hands and feet quiet. You are representing our school. Be sure to say thank you to the place and people we visit and who take us on tours. Listen carefully to the information so you can ask good questions.
32. Whenever you are offered food in class or somewhere else, take a little, not a whole fist-full. Save some for others. It is disrespectful to be greedy. If someone drops something, help him/her pick it up. That is polite, it makes the person feel better, and you feel better for helping.
35. If you come to a door at the same time someone else does, hold it open for them, and say, “After you please.”
36. If someone bumps you, or you bump someone, say, “Excuse me please.” This is very necessary where there are lots of students, like in the hallway..etc.
37. Hallway behavior: Never run or yell because classes are in session. Always enter the building with voices OFF! For safety: Walk always.
38. When lining up: Leave a space between you and the person in front of you. Never push your way in.
39. Lockers: Close them quietly, do not slam them. Keep it cleaned out. No scotch tape please. You may use magnets.
40. During a school Assemblies: No talking once the assembly has started. Ignore distractions. We must show others that we “have our act together.”
41. Walking in a line: Absolutely no talking. Walk in single-file, 2 feet behind the person in front of you, arms to your sides or folded behind you. Do not hit things hanging from the ceiling, or run your hands along the walls. Face forward at all times.
42. No cutting in line. If someone does this to you- ignore it (I mean don’t scream out, ”So and so cut!”) Handle it yourself politely or come to me quietly. This is the same for other big problems you can’t solve by yourself. Come to me or another adult for help.
43. Bullies: If anyone in the school is bothering you or making you feel uncomfortable in a way you can’t handle, come to me or another adult for help. You are here to be safe; we are here to help and protect you.
44. It’s okay to stand up for what you believe in. Do it in a polite way. Say it in a kind way.
45. Be positive and enjoy life! Some things just aren’t worth getting upset over. Keep everything in perspective and focus on the good things in your life.
46. Live so you don’t have regrets. Do what you need to reach that dream.
47. No matter what the circumstances, always be honest, tell the truth.
48. BE THE BEST PERSON YOU CAN BE, AT HOME, AT SCHOOL, AND IN THE COMMUNITY. DO SOMETHING NICE FOR OTHERS, YOU’LL FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF. “KILL IT WITH KINDNESS”-THAT WORKS BETTER THAN YELLING. REMEMBER A “SOFT ANSWER” MAY JUST TURN SOMEONE’S ANGER AWAY.
49. HAVE FUN, HONOR OTHERS, and FOLLOW THE VIRTUES.
50. WE ARE A “CIRCLE OF FRIENDS” WITH ROOM TO GROW AND LEARN!
ALWAYS REMEMBER: YOU ARE A VERY SPECIAL PERSON!
4th graders are “WISE-KIDS.” They practice making wise decisions in everything. They show respect and kindness to others, and set good examples for others in the school to see!